While I was in the hospital recovering from a c-section, we had mentioned to our in-laws that we didn’t want anyone visiting but family since I just wasn’t up for visitors. What with lying in a hospital bed bleeding and not being showered. The in-laws were of course inconsiderate and brought in their friends that they would be staying with. No one asked us or informed us that they would be coming. I had only met these people once.
When my husband told his father that what he did was rude, he said, “But they’re family. They’ve known you since you were a baby.” My husband had to remind my hardheaded FIL that I was the one in the hospital bed, not him. It was up to me who visited and who didn’t.
When I got home from the hospital, MIL was in my kitchen making all of her son’s favorite foods. (Including gassy foods that new breastfeeding mothers shouldn’t eat.) Hello?! I am the one who just had surgery, is in pain and trying to learn how to breastfeed. How about accommodating me and not your son who is feeling fine.