A little over a month ago, DH and I found out that I’m pregnant. We have been keeping the whole thing fairly quiet because I have had miscarriages before and I am considered high risk. However, we decided to tell immediate family members right away. We figured that no matter what happened, it would be good to have the support. So we told our parents and siblings. We told each of them to keep it absolutely quiet until we can make it to the end of the first trimester. Apparently this is driving my MIL insane (amongst many, many other things to do with this pregnancy). She calls our house once a week to ask DH when we’re planning on telling people. She desperately wants us to call and tell DH’s grandparents (her parents). These are two people who couldn’t be bothered to come to their first grandchild’s wedding, so what makes you think that they’re going to care about this?
Today the pressure to tell everyone got much worse. She called this morning to ask DH AGAIN when we’re planning on telling people. I’m glad he’s the one who talks to her because I’m not nearly as patient! He said again that we aren’t telling people until the end of February/beginning of March because that’s when we finish the first trimester. She wanted to know why and if we really feel like we need to wait that long. He patiently explained why we want to wait that long. Then she said, “Well I really want you to tell people on Valentine’s Day because I think it would be cute.” So DH patiently explained again that while that sounds like a lovely idea, we are waiting for very good reasons. She asked to speak to me. Then she told me that she wants me to tell people on Valentine’s Day. I wasn’t quite as polite as DH was about it. I told her that we have explained our reasons multiple times and that since it’s our baby, we will choose to tell people when we want to tell them.
DH and I went to run errands today. MIL called three more times while we were gone and left messages listing the reasons why we have to tell people on Valentine’s Day. We haven’t called her back. I can’t face it right now. It’s not her decision to make. It’s our baby and we will tell people when we are good and ready!! Let it go! I’m sure that this isn’t the last we’ve heard of this. I’m sure that every night this week through Thursday we will get phone calls about why she wants us to tell people on Valentine’s. Apparently since she wants us to tell them, we have to do it. How long until she realizes that she’s not the mom!?!?! It’s going to be a long nine months…
This story was submitted a few days before Valentine’s Day. Sorry it didn’t get published until now, but I hope the Sane In-Law who sent it was able to stick to her guns.