My future MIL has CLEARLY never heard of boundaries. The first time I met her, I had to sit through an ENTIRELY SILENT dinner. In my FH’s family, no one communicates to each other unless they’re gambling or yelling at each other. Crazy, I know! Anyway, after dinner, I saw that his mother was tearing up and so I politely asked her if everything was ok. I even reached out to lightly touch her hand to show I was genuinely concerned. She yanked her hand away, looked me FIERCELY in the face and asked, “Are you a virgin? ARE YOU?”
Terrified, I snapped my hand back and stuffed my face with rice. I didn’t know what to say, so I nervously allowed my eyes to dart back in her direction. She held my gaze and stood up, more defiantly, and asked me again. I was terrified and not knowing what to do, I looked down at my lap in shame with cheeks full of white rice that I could not swallow. My FH nervously chuckled and said, “Of course we are…”
At this point, she had a full on nervous break down, called us liars, and accused me of “ruining” her son. I could’ve just died right then and there. I should’ve known back then I would never have a relationship with her. Little did I know, this was just the TIP of my in-laws’ insane lack of respect or boundaries.