I’ll recap, my husband and I have been married 3 years, have 2 children from previous relationships, girls, both 8. And we have a 2 yr old son. We have a great relationship. The problem is his side of the family. While we have evolved into a family of 5, still cannot seem to accept this fact.
They will not stop favoring my husband’s daughter, she is not the only grandchild, either. There are 3 from my husband’s brother. But they constantly are buying her gifts, sending them to her house, not for any special occasion, just because she asks! They don’t do this for any of the other kids. My husband and I have asked repeatedly for it to stop.
In January I wrote my inlaws a letter, I was fed up with watching my husband sick over the way his parents constantly disrespected him and would go against any of his wishes and spoil his daughter. That letter didn’t go over so well! (didn’t think it would!) I of course was blamed for everything, I’m a master manipulator, trying to brainwash my husband, I need a lobotomy, all sorts of insults. Not actually said to me, filtered thru my husband, since they won’t talk to me.
Fast forward to today. Stepdaughter has been here the whole summer. Today I let the inlaws take her for the afternoon (note they didn’t want to see my other kids). I met them at the mall, and left MIL with the simple request DO NOT BUY HER ANYTHING! She doesn’t need stuffed animals, etc…. Yes, so 5 minutes after I left, they went to build a bear and got her a bear, 3 stuffed animals, and a bunch of other stuff! Then told her to “keep it quiet” ie. Don’t tell me. Well, I found out, and finally told MIL off. And she calls and leaves this insane message on my machine (and my husband’s work phone) about how we are crazy and they are grandparents and they can buy whatever they want, whenever they want. And that we blow everything out of proportion, blah blah blah.
I’m at a loss, hubby works out of town, I’m alone with the kids, and I have to deal with MIL and FIL (who hates me more than MIL).
My goodness..how blind are they to see this is not about stuffed animals, it’s about respect!
I know I’m right, in that I can ask that they respect our wishes in not buying things for our kids unless it’s a special occasion??? Right?