I have been married to my DH for almost 10 years now. I have disliked his family from the moment we returned from our honeymoon. We decided to elope and have a reception later, as we were a bit older than the usual crowd that marries in their early 20’s. My DH was 26 and I was 28. His MIL decided that she wanted input on the reception we were throwing. We were paying for the event ourselves and did not ask for any money from my DH’s parents.
She was so upset that he was following the list I had given him to use at the store (we had worked out what we wanted the night before in the way of food and decorations) that she actually left him at the store. She stormed off and drove away because he wasn’t “taking her advice” and he was being an “idiot.”
He called me and told me what was going on and I was really surprised because she seemed like such a nice person. I couldn’t have been more wrong. She dominated the party and at that moment I realized she would never approve of me as a wife, and she would never treat him like an adult.
This situation worsened over the years. My MIL tried to take over my kitchen and teach me how her “boys” liked their fruit cut and their stew made. I never cooked for them again at my house. We always go out to eat now.
And when my child was born, she started trying to tell me how to be a parent. That is when I put my foot down and told her to just leave me alone.
But the worse offenses actually come from my FIL. He throws tantrums and refuses to speak to us for days. He hangs up the phone if the conversation isn’t going the way he planned and he is extremely selfish and spoiled.
My FIL came down a few weeks ago and absolutely devastated my DH. He visited for a few minutes and then left after promising to hang out for a few days more. Realize, we live several states away so it wasn’t like my DH could just hop in a car and go see him. My FIL didn’t even give a reason as to why he left so suddenly and when we asked that he give us a call that night, we heard nothing. We assume he made it okay because we haven’t been called about a funeral, but he still hasn’t called us.
Oh, that is another thing… they don’t call us and tell us when people die or when wedding are occurring, because “You just live too far away.” That is our punishment for moving out of state. They are extremely vindictive.
I have decided that I am no longer going to send them photos of our child via email or call or keep in contact with them at all. You cannot reward bad behavior. It is all going to fall on my DH’s shoulder. We will visit for Christmas and Easter. Beyond that, I don’t think we will have further contact.
They have completely pushed me to my breaking point. I have never dealt with such selfish or mean people in my life.