My in-laws, without asking if my husband and I had other plans or not, booked and paid for flights and a hotel for their son only to join them on a holiday.
The night before their flight, they insisted that he and I come over for dinner and because he had left some clothes there that they think he should bring.
When we arrived I find that he had not left any clothes there at all and MIL began going through his bag to see what he had packed.
MIL: “Why are you sending my son with his bag packed like this?”
Me: “He packed his own bag, what’s wrong with it?”
MIL: “Look at it, his shirts aren’t ironed”
Me: “They’re T-Shirts, why would you iron a T-Shirt?”
MIL: “I can’t believe you’d send him like this, what if someone I know sees him?”
Me: “I don’t iron T-shirts, he doesn’t ask me to. But if he did I would laugh and tell him to do it himself”
MIL: “I’m surprised you even bothered to WASH his clothes for him, or did he have to do that himself too?”
MIL then emptied out his bag, placed a towel on the table opposite where I was eating my dinner and ironed every single T-shirt in his bag, as well as his pajamas and re-ironed anything that I had obviously already ironed.
She actually carried on so much that night that I started thinking that most people may actually regularly iron their T-shirts. I asked all of my friends if they had ever met anyone who ironed T-shirts and not one of them had.
I am so glad I was not asked to join them on that holiday. I am sorry if she is jealous that her son now lives with me, but she does not need to try to make me or him feel that I am not looking after him well enough.
She also comes in to where he and I work together to drop off hot cooked meals for him to replace the meals that I prepare and pack for him daily. She asks what I made him, and it’s not as boring as plain sandwiches but obviously not a cooked meal because I work and don’t have time for that, and says “oh, good thing I brought this”- that’s just rude. And you know what?Ffrom those meals you can tell why her husband and other kids are so obese!
(In laws are crazy!! I am so glad I have found your site, to know that I am not the only one dealing with the crazy all the time. It’s not something you can talk about with most people!)