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It’s Her Birthday and We’ll Do What I Want

My MIL’s birthday was recently and for family birthdays, the birthday-girl or -boy gets to pick the place to go out to eat. My husband, her son, talked to her on the phone and since she wasn’t sure where she wanted to go, he made  several suggestions based on what she’s liked in the past. She decided on a casual evening at a pizza place.

A couple of hours later, SIL calls and says that MIL would really like asian food instead and asked her brother if he would be OK with that since my husband really does not like the food and neither does my son. He told her such, but said if that’s what MIL wanted then I guess we would make do somehow. But, he asked, I thought she wanted pizza? No, she doesn’t, was the SIL’s response.

Knowing how SIL can be, my husband called MIL to find out why she changed her mind. MIL told him that she didn’t tell her daughter that she wanted asian and she got angry about it. MIL then called SIL and said they were going for pizza. SIL responded, Fine! We’ll just drop off your present and cake and leave because WE don’t want pizza!

She must have thought my husband would never question her because she normally always gets her way. She was totally busted this time. Oh, and she did show up but stayed and ate with the rest of us and acted as if it was in their plans the whole time.

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Let me count the ways…

My inlaws, all of them, drive me insane! They are so not a normal family. My husband comes from a family of eight children, I will give you a short synopsis of each one….
 
First there is my MIL. She is a total pushover, and I swear she is brainless. Our daughter will never be equal to my SIL’s children, she has no interest in her what so ever. 
 
The oldest brother is an alcoholic living in a homeless shelter. He wants to live with my husband, my daughter and I. I said no. Absolutely not. Now he bad mouths me and calls me a bitch.
 
The next in line is the only SIL that I like. Thank God for her.
 
Next, my BIL and his wife. They live in filth. They smoke..constantly..in their house, around their children, who have no clothes and do not go to school. Nice, right?
 
Next…My Gay BIL, the only normal one in the family. I love him, dearly.
 
Oh, my favorite SIL (notice the sarcasm) that back-stabbing, two- faced, horrible person. She takes the cake. Lies. Cheats. Steals. Has a royally bad attitude. She is on the verge of wrecking my marriage. It’s funny to me that she calls everyone white trash–she is the queen of it!
 
Next are the twins, they party. Have no responsibility what- so- ever.
 
My husband–he’s not too bright. He doesn’t see any of this behavior. Nor does he do anything productive in our marriage. I WANT OUT!

Family Fun!

I’ve added a new category to help fill the voids (because your in-laws are SO boring!). I’ll include links to posts I happen across that are in-law related. A good way to find new blogs to read AND get confirmation that in-laws have a universal ability to make just about everyone nuts.

Thank you, blaugra at The Peevery.

Don’t Want To Start Off On The Wrong Foot

I am up in the middle of the night stressing about my baby shower.  I am 7 months pregnant.  My husband’s ex co-worker thought it was important for me to have a shower as my close family live in another country and won’t be able to throw one for me.  I thought that was sweet of her, and because I have met her only once, told him I would accept – but would like to keep it very small, inviting only the friends I have made whilst living here for the past 3 years.  Also I thought I could keep it smaller because my sister in-law offered to throw me one – only the in-law family who live in another town not too far away.  That way 2 smaller showers instead of one bigger one would have been better. 

My husband is receiving calls and emails from his family with their emails to forward to his ex co-worker so that they can be included in the guest list.  This is includes the mother in law, sister-in-law, brothers’ girlfriends, cousin, aunt and step-grandmother.  That is quite a few extra people, and I really do not know his ex co-worker very well at all and it would be a bit gaudy to put this budget and organization on her shoulders.

My sister-in-law had also in the past offered us the use of her baby things she is not using anymore, but then sold them.  It looks like she promises one thing, but does another.   

I can’t really say anything to my SIL because I do not know her that well.  Her father paid for her shower at an expensive country club, and I feel if they would like to attend this shower – who someone I really do not know well has been kind enough to offer to host it, I somewhat feel that he too could contribute to the expense, but yet again, it is not for me to say so. Also if they all come, and I am inviting some of my husband’s female friends, it will be 75% his friends and only 25% mine.

I have not seem my own family for years, as I have spent the past few years helping him through graduate school.  His sister and mom I feel often put their feelings ahead of mine. I understand it is her grandchild, and I would not mind having her there, but I would prefer it if they knew their place.  I just feel that they could contribute to the shower, but how do I go about letting them know how I feel?  I would prefer 2 smaller showers, as was first the plan, but they seem to be shifting responsibility and expense on someone I hardly know.   

I need to show how I feel as they will keep on walking over me.  And as my own mother lives on the other side of the world, I will not have the pillar of support like most new mothers have and it makes me a little sad.  I don’t always like going to my mom for advice because I don’t like her to worry if I am feeling stressed.  I miss her so much and I am tired of family in law.  I am going to see my own family in December in my homeland and I am so excited about it.  I just need a break. 

Well, I will try to get back to sleep. I think I just need to rant to someone out there.

Crazy Cat People

When we moved, our FIL and MIL agreed to take our kitty to live with them because my allergies were getting so bad. They adore her, but in the past few years their health has been failing. With that, they aren’t as physically able to get into the basement to change the kitty litter as often as they should (our cat joined their cat, so there’s actually two).

Since they can’t change the cat boxes as often, the cats have started pooping elsewhere. One SIL came over and her “solution” was to add a third cat box. Which they can’t change either!

My BIL came to visit from out-of-state and he and his wife locked the cats in a small dark room in the basement for three days, “TO TEACH THEM A LESSON!”

Another SIL called my husband to tell him to come over…to change the kitty litter! She was right-fucking-there!

WTF??!

Why Not Just Say, “Not Tonight, I Have To Wash My Hair.”

I have two sisters-in-law. One (Betsy) lives several states away and just got into town this morning. The other (Bat), lives in the same town as we do.

Betsy had stopped over at our house and as the afternoon progressed, we started making plans for supper. How about some pizza? Sounds good! So my husband and Betsy head out to pick up the pizzas as well as a couple of other things. While on their errands, they call Bat to find out what they are doing for supper. Bat doesn’t have any plans and before the pizza idea is shared, Bat suggests going to a nearby ‘burb to get a burger.

Betsy interrupts to tell her that she and her brother (my husband) are on their way to pick up some pizzas and bring them over to our house.

“Oh,” Bat says. “You know, I’ve got laundry to do and a bunch of things I need to get ready during this upcoming week. I’ll pass this time.”

So, she was fine taking a trip to another town and sitting in a crappy bar to eat a burger, but the idea of coming over to our house is too distasteful of a thought to her? Even worse is that she actually thinks I’m too oblivious to realize it.

Can You Hear Me Now?

My MIL is in the nursing home recovering from orthopaedic surgery. Her room has absolutely no amenities, so Husband brought her TV from home and hooked it up. We replaced our old cell phone we kept at home for emergencies with a newer, easier to use cell phone and loaned it to her. We just got the bill for the upgrade.

When Husband and I went in to update our phones this week, we were a bit upset to find out that the phone we had just replaced a month ago wouldn’t work on the new plan. But we sucked it up and got yet another phone, which is very similar to the one MIL already had.

She was fine with it.

But then my SIL1, who was visiting from out of state, decided to mess with the phone by creating shortcuts, and filing numbers under odd names, plus she forgot to include the area codes of “local” numbers since “her plan” doesn’t require that. MIL calls Husband, upset because she can’t work the phone. Husband calls SIL2 and asks what happened, then SIL1 calls US back and tells us it’s our fault in the first place for getting her a new phone. “Why did you have to change plans?! *I* didn’t have to change plans! It’s all YOUR fault! You fix it!” (I’m paraphrasing.)

Husband calls  SIL2 and asks what the heck is up SIL1’s SIL1’s butt, and starts to tell her how SIL1 messed with the phone, but SIL2 interrupts and said that SIL1 didn’t do ANYTHING to that phone…and why did you have to get a new phone anyway…?? Broken record…

I told my husband if I hear one more damn word about that phone, I will tell the daughters (SIL1 and SIL2) they can go out and get their mom a phone of THEIR choosing, and that they should be grateful that we are loaning MIL the phone we normally keep at home for my mom when she comes to visit the kids in case of an emergency …AND that WE paid for – twice – and are paying the monthly usage for!

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